Cross Addiction, although not new has really been popping up with my clients these days. We not only are surrounded by so many things in our world today that can become addictive but also... pandemic. In times of discomfort, we can turn to social media, food, television, relationships and so many more things (God bless America, right?). In a world in which consumption is praised, almost anything can become addictive. We have since we were children taught "If a little is good, then a lot is going to be great!" In short, Cross Addiction is having co-occurring addictions that may or may not be affecting one another.
The biggest issue here today is that most people focus solely on the obvious addiction (the one that is traditionally understood as being addictive - alcohol, drugs, gambling). I had a client who had a Cross Addiction between Alcohol and Relationships. Their main problem was the relationship addiction and they used alcohol to maintain and continue that addiction. They came to me with the alcohol issue in the fore without fully recognizing the relationship addiction was driving the alcohol dependency. Once they realized and face the real problem the alcohol was something that could then be engaged in moderation. The addiction to alcohol was only there due to it upholding a deeper addiction they were not willing to let go of, mainly because they did not see it as being the problem. (I would like to add that the "problem" was not the relationship addiction, but that was the primary symptom of their problem. Sorting this out brought new attention and awareness to their life as a whole making it easier to cope with their triggers and their subsequent addictions.)
If you suspect that you are struggling with Cross Addiction I encourage you to seek help from someone who doesn't have the answers. Therapists and counselors, are extremely overworked and can often see a sliver of your life, and because they've seen it before building a solution for you without being open to the whole of your experience. But just as you want a therapist who doesn't have an answer you also want to be open to not having the answer. It is always a good idea when looking for a therapist to be open to their opinions and not attempt to guide their thinking. If we do that we will focus on what we see and guide conversations to include that which WE think are the problems without revealing things under the surface.
Most addiction, and escapes that we make from our lives, are done due to trauma in our past. These might be slight traumas in the grand scheme but for us it is relative. It is, for this reason, I would suggest if we have any addiction issues we are trying to gain control of to seek someone who is trauma-informed.